It’s not uncommon for sex in nature to include a bit of violence. But in the shadowy tide pools and coral reefs of the Pacific, an extraordinary mating duel is unfolding. The blue-lined octopus (Hapalochlaena fasciata), a tiny but deadly cephalopod, has developed a unique and ruthless solution to a longstanding problem: surviving mating.

A Deadly Embrace

Sexual cannibalism is common in cephalopods. Female octopuses are larger, stronger, and when opportunity strikes, perfectly willing to turn their mates into a meal. “When female blue-lined octopuses lay eggs, they spend roughly six weeks without feeding just looking after the eggs. They really need a lot of energy to get them through that brooding process,” Dr. Wen-Sung Chung of the University of Queensland told The Guardian. For males, this poses a life-or-death dilemma: how do you pass your genes without becoming past tense?

As smart as they are, the blue-lined octopus males came up with a radical solution. New research reveals that males inject their mates with venom mid-copulation, paralyzing them just long enough to ensure mating success. The venom, a neurotoxin called tetrodotoxin, is one of the most potent in nature—powerful enough to kill humans and even green sea turtles that accidentally ingest the octopus. Yet, in a similar fashion, female blue-lined octopuses have evolved resistance to their own species’ lethal weapon. While it renders them temporarily immobile, they suffer no lasting effects.

A High-Stakes Strategy

Chung and his colleagues at the University of Queensland observed male blue-lined octopuses delivering a targeted bite near the female’s aorta at the start of ‘sexy time’. As the venom took effect, the females turned pale, their breathing slowed, and their pupils became unresponsive to light. The paralysis lasted roughly eight minutes. Mating itself, however, extended far longer—lasting between 40 and 75 minutes.

Males of some octopus species have found other ways to avoid being eaten. The argonaut octopus, for instance, takes no chances—its males simply detach their mating arm, which drifts toward the female to deposit sperm, sparing the male from a potentially fatal encounter. Others, like deep-sea octopuses, have evolved elongated mating arms to fertilize females from a safe distance.

But blue-lined octopuses, with their much shorter mating arm, must get up close and personal.

The venom-assisted strategy ensures the male can finish the job and escape before the female regains control. “This is a great example of a co-evolutionary arms race between sexes, where a cannibalizing large female is counteracted using venom in males,” Chin-Chuan Chiao of National Tsing Hua University in Taiwan, who was not involved in the study, told New Scientist.

Males seem to be equipped for this battle of the sexes. The study found that male blue-lined octopuses have significantly larger venom glands than females. It’s an evolutionary arms race in miniature—females grow bigger, stronger, and more dangerous, and in response, males evolve an efficient chemical countermeasure to stay alive long enough to reproduce.

Life After the Encounter? Not that long

Despite their clever mating strategy, neither sex has long to live. Like most octopus species, the blue-lined octopus follows a reproductive pattern known as semelparity—mating once before dying. Males perish shortly after copulation. Females, once their eggs hatch, succumb soon after. Their venom ensures that their genes live on, even if they do not.

As researchers continue to study the blue-lined octopus’s reproductive behavior, one thing is clear: in the game of evolution, sometimes the only way to survive is to fight fire… uhm… venom with venom.